I am happy that I get to polish off this crazy hectic traumatizing stroke-inducing workweek with a date tonight. It's this guy I met through a friend of a friend. I admit, I haven't fully resolved things with the Exfoliator. As I mused over this the other evening, I began to wonder and posed the following questions to my friend the Naysayer: What are the ethics of dating more than one guy at a time? And if things progress in each prospective relationship, i.e. physically, is that wrong?
His response (keep in mind he is a single 28-year-old male): "You can sleep with both guys if you want at the same time throughout the same period and it's all good."
I paused. "Are you being sarcastic?" I asked.
"No, I'm serious," he said.
"Seriously?" I asked.
"Look, if you don't define the relationship with either of the guys, then you are free to do whatever (or whomever) you want. You are committed to neither of the guys and neither of the guys are committed to you."
"Yeah, but isn't that ... icky?"
"I think morally and ethically, it's sound. But in your case, I don't think you're capable of that."
"Yeah," I agreed, "I don't think I am."
So I suppose I agree. If both Girl and Guy #1 have no binding agreement on the terms of their relationship, then Girl is free to date and do Guy #2. It's a free country. We have free will. And as long as people protect themselves (emotionally and physically), then it's all good. Be happy. Life's short.
I suppose, like the Naysayer intimated, I am incapable of being in the mindset to do that. Usually, I want to "be" with a guy if I really really like him. And it's difficult for me to really really like two guys at the same time.
Anyhow, none of this really matters because neither of the guys have made any indication of wanting to have sex with me. For all I know, next week I'll be blogging again about how there are "no guys out there" and then resort to online dating. If worse comes to worse, I can always find a sugar daddy.
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Funny. I wrote about something similar last night.
I would agree with what's written here. Technically, anyway. In practice, I have a hard time with the concept. I suppose dating multiple people isn't so bad, but when things progress emotionally with one, then it's best to call it quits with the rest. At least, in my opinion. As for progressing physically with more than one person, that just seems to undermine any emotional progression with any of them, whether it's ethically sound or not. Again, in my opinion.
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