I ended things with the shy guy recently. In fact, I barely had to say anything. He just guessed what I was about to say. When I confirmed his suspicion, he did something unprecedented: He was totally classy.
I have this unfair stereotype of guys as having very fragile egos, no matter how much money they make, how many girls they sleep with, whatever. Their egos are particularly vulnerable when it comes to women. And so, the guys I have come to know and regret -- upon the demise of something -- usually bristle, lash out, and act like babies with responses such as "My friends didn't like you anyway," "Whatever, I was going to dump you yesterday but I was busy getting all these other girls' numbers," and the like.
The shy guy however did not take that route. He told me he thought I was a 'wonderful person,' said he wished we could have lasted longer, and wished me the best. He also said he enjoyed the time we did spend together and has no regrets.
And it didn't feel like he was just giving lip service. I think he meant it. How refreshing it is to end something with a guy on good terms with respect. And how sad it is that he probably represents 0.0000000000001% of the single male population. If only all break-ups could end this well.
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2 comments:
thank you for documenting this rare phenomena.
Really, I don't know if this is as rare as it seems.
Either way, it's great that you could both walk away with some dignity and a minimal of broken hearts.
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